The marital mystery-By Kamlesh Bahukhandi
by Kamalesh Bahukhandi on Wednesday, September 22, 2010 at 3:25pm
“You can either be happy or married,” opined a cynical man. One may, however, object to the subjective use of the conjunction ‘or’. If you look around, you can see scores of unmarried people who are also unhappy. Actually conjugal relation has a mystic side.There never is a blood relation between husband and wife. Their social upbringings, likes and dislikes are not from the same spectrum. Still, they stay together and raise a family. And barring some cases, a subtle understanding carries the two “till death does them part”. What could be the magic behind such a long-standing association? Is it a game of pituitary gland, the bondage of offspring or a platonic dependence? Perhaps each one is partly true but none in totality. What clicks the relation is not fully understood even today. Maybe, that non-understandability is the key to success in majority of the marriages. To describe the co-existence, a novelist once wrote: “The marital relation stands on the brick work of fights, interspersed with bits of love.” Better not to tinker with living couples in such risky ventures.We will try to explore the relation through ghostly stories. A young wife committed suicide due to constant torture by her husband. He never cared for her, but demanded her attention day and night. In her ghostly existence, the wife planned to take revenge. She met a scribe (me) and voluntarily agreed to give an interview. I was too obliged to get such a scoop. I asked: “Madam, do you think your husband is responsible for your suicide?” The ghost said: “Absolutely. I had no other way to put him in his place.” I asked: “How do you describe the man?” The ghost spewed a few classical invectives before painting a colourful picture of the mean and obnoxious being she had to accept as husband. I then asked: “Do you really want him to be convicted for your unnatural death?” The ghost wife hissed: “I want him to be severely punished for his attitude towards me. Please ensure that he is hanged and sent to me at the earliest.” I was surprised. “I understand that you want him to die. But why do you ask him to be sent to you?” The ghost genuinely blushed at this point and answered in a whisper: “You better ask the question to your wife!” Thank God I am not married ,I said. An opposite story is also heard about the undefined relationship. A husband suddenly died of heart failure. Naturally the wife was grief-stricken. She cried a lot. One day she sat on a planchette and started calling her departed partner heart and soul. The husband did not dare ignore the call. The wife asked: “Are you there?” The planchette wrote: “Yes.” The lady lamented: “Why did you leave me alone in this lifeless world?” The planchette remained motionless. The lady asked: “How are you now?” The planchette wrote: “In a peaceful and blissful state with myself.” The wife wept: “Bless me so that I can also join you there, soon.” The planchette did not answer. The wife repeated the plea. Still there was no answer. The lady then shouted: “You are playing your other worldly tricks to ignore me.” The planchette started shaking and a clear sentence became visible: “God bless you to live hundred years!” Interpretation rests on the readers and let me also know , what it's according to you.